Kitsap Children's Clinic, LLP
Port Orchard

Memos From Your Child

Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not have all I ask for - I'm only testing you.

Don't be afraid to be firm with me, I prefer it; it makes me feel more secure.

Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

Don't correct me in front of other people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.

Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.

Don't take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need.

Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.

Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly when promises are broken.

Don't tax my honesty too much. I'm easily frightened into telling lies.

Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you'll find that I stop asking, and seek my information elsewhere.

Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you're neither.

Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.

Don't ever think it's beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you.

Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get on without it, so please put up with it.

Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding and love, but I don't need to tell you, Do I?